Newhouse Farm

kaffleck · Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 12:05 pm Post subject:

The ex is making it very easy for me to keep him that way. Was my last day in my shop yesterday (going back to online based only from home) and he stormed in with the girls at 3, told me he couldn't cope with them anymore, that DD1 is a very bad girl, and stormed out. My landlady came in to discuss rent and DD1 told her that daddy hates her and wishes her dead. Whilst I know that he wouldn't have said or even thought such a thing she obviously felt something along the lines and embellished it (she's a bit of a drama queen!). My landlady was appropriately shocked. They were on best behaviour for about half hour and then I got customers and all hell broke loose with them screaming at each other and throwing toy blocks around the place. I couldn't placate my youngest at all. Turns out she is poorly.
Regardless of what is going on between him and me surely he could put his own feelings aside whilst minding the kids? Thankfully since I no longer have to go out to work and the summer holidays are here they won't need to be in his care.
Yesterday was just the last in a line of 'issues' that have arisen over the past few weeks. I'm not going back for more of that!
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happymama · Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 1:58 pm Post subject:

Can't blame you!

Mine told me ours are 'over disciplined'. Well, I leave my friends, and some members of this forum have met my kids too, to decide, but I did remind him that he reaps the benefits of well-behaved and 'over disciplined' children every time he takes them somewhere and gets compliment about their lovely, natural and self-controlled behaviour.

Ah, the times I wish I'd known that child I'd quite happily like to strangle was going down with scarletina/chicken pox/gastro the next day ... as parent's we're not psychic (not in that sense, anyway, round here) although I've got quite good at spotting the symptoms of growth spurt in mine, each one does it differently! His lordship is rubbish at spotting those things but I don't think it's his fault, evolution made him that way and his own innate selfish, self-serving self-centredness polishes off any common sense left over.

My divorce was a seminal moment in my life, but not half as much as taking my own name back again. The relief was ENORMOUS!

Cost a lot less, too. £10 online!
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columbusrat · Posted: Wed Jul 01, 2009 11:27 am Post subject:

I was chatting to the piano tuner yesterday...

Kemble, which is now owned by Yamaha, is the only company still making pianos in England. But now Yamaha is moving all manufacturing to other countries, so no pianos will be made in England any more, which of course means losing a lot of craftsmen.

Even worse, Yamaha will now be manufacturing on a 'build to break' basis. The new pianos will have a life expectancy of around 25 years which may be good for a washing machine, but not for a piano.

But there's even more....

By changing designs frequently, and destroying the moulding equipment, Yamaha will do its level best to ensure that when your piano does break, it won't be possible to repair it - that way, they leave you with no option but to buy a new piano
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Pod · Posted: Wed Jul 01, 2009 12:35 pm Post subject:

I think there was an article on You & Yours a few months ago about that. The guy from Kemble was gutted that they were having to give up but they just couldn't afford to carry on unless, IIRC, it was making very expensive pianos for very rich people and that wasn't an option. Very sad . B***** infuriating and typical re Yamaha. No wonder the world's in such a state. Let's boycott all Yamaha products .

Edited to add linky if you're interested.
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Pod · Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2009 12:23 pm Post subject:

A few days ago there was an article in the Scottish news about four dogs who have died because they were left in cars, two of them in the same car, in this hot weather. I have just heard that two police dogs have died in a police vehicle parked outside Nottinghamshire HQ. The Dogs Trust have said it was "saddened" by the news . I'm absolutely outraged . It never ceases to amaze me the number of dogs I see in cars with not enough or no ventilation. Just a few weeks ago, slightly cooler thankfully but still warm, I saw a woman put her dogs in the car having walked them already so they were quite warm. The car had been parked in the sun but she moved it to the shade and went into the garden centre. She didn't open any windows at all. Why not??? What is so difficult about opening a ******* window????

The other incident that springs to mind is a visitor to the farm a few years ago leaving her Jack Russell in her car, in full sun, no ventilation at all. I spoke to her about it and she said "He doesn't usually have a problem" but went and opened the car up anyway. She was a veterinary nurse .

When we were in the process of deciding about getting a dog, one of my arguments was they were easier than cats because you can take them with you. We have found it's not that easy at all and we have had to miss out on things or make convoluted arrangements and whatnot, but that is part of the responsibility of having an animal. If you are going to have a pet their welfare should be one of your first priorities.
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happymama · Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2009 9:42 pm Post subject:

I agree. We took 2 dogs on holiday to Cornwall a few years ago, and did this:

We parked the car up, and if in the shade, and the weather set fair, leave the dogs tied to the towbar and their beds outside, with water. If weather set to poss rain or no shade, we left the back open, put the bed in there, still tied them to the bumper and took everything nickable out the car.

Never had a problem, never had upset dogs, they were usually either stretched out on the ground or in their bed, had toileted on the end of the leads and found their water.

Usually we found grass to back up to.
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knitty · Posted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 9:47 am Post subject:

Woke up this morning in lovely mood, turned the radio on just in time to catch the news.......I lad I know (all be it not very well) was killed in a nightclub two roads away from my house (we live bang in the middle of town) He was stabbed for smiling at somebodys girlfriend....what the F**K is wrong with people!?!?!? I cant believe that in todays society the only way to sort out something as petty as that is to take someones life, that lad was so gentle and I garuntee he was only smiling as he prob though she was pretty, not to be flirting....totally sickened....GRRR!
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kaffleck · Posted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 10:10 am Post subject:

Oh knitty thats awful. His poor family.
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Pod · Posted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 12:11 pm Post subject:

That's absolutely hellish Knitty . I do believe some people don't even try to control themselves anymore - there are no consequences to be scared of. Specially if they've been drinking.
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danksshady · Posted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 7:38 pm Post subject:

Knitty thats awful
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SunhillPumpkin · Ancient Yew Joined: 05 Feb 2009 Posts: 582

so sorry about your pal Knitty,much the same happened near me,a boy was defending his cousin from some bullies one of em went home and get a knife,

knitty · Posted: Sun Jul 12, 2009 7:52 am Post subject:

They caught the guy that stabbed him! some witnesses followed him pinned him down and called the police, he still had blood on him. Hope they string him up
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SunhillPumpkin · Ancient Yew Joined: 05 Feb 2009 Posts: 582

this is a small thing but it still made me well mad in the bus station a man stood with a bin behind him yet still threw his ticket on the floor,I wanted to give him a hiding

Florence · Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 7:45 pm Post subject:

It happens all the time - people drop litter without so much as a thought. We've a small team in our town who do a fair amount of litter picking amongst other things to smarten up the town and the times some of us have been asked if we have a job with the council you would not believe. It's just getting around that we are volunteers. I do wish people would make the effort to either not drop it or to pick it up if it blows in their yard/front garden. They don't.
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Indica Mama · Moderator / Ancient Yew Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 1540

Oh Florence I feel your frustration. Its lack of consideration it is.
On a similar note

Went to the supermkt today which was enough to make my blood boil at the best of times but today with two grumpy kids in tow I could really do with the last Mama n Kids space to get the kids safely across the carpark in one piece. Spotted last space phew, but no pipped to the post I was because I let someone else out. OK I thought fare doo's but when the woman got out of her car with no kids I was enraged. Agggh how could she???!!!

So, as she was walking into the store, I politely asked "why take that space up when she wasn't with any children?"

Her reply was "My 11wk old baby is asleep in the car while I go shopping"

At first I thought, OK she has children, maybe I judged too quickly.
Then I thought, NO hold on a minute she's just left a baby in the car to go shopping!!! :shocked:
As if that's not bad enough, I then thought, just because she has a baby doesn't mean she needs the extra space around the car, if shes not getting the baby out.

If she had taken the baby out then OK that's different, but she didn't!

She had two legs and was perfectly mobile. So why take up the last free M&B space when there were plenty of other normal spaces near the store entrance that she could have used.

Shaking by now, I pointed all that out to her and she stormed off....

While I was at the check-out, the car lady came steaming over to me and in a raised voice said "We clearly wont be able to settle this! So I hope you're happy! I'VE MOVED MY CAR, HAPPY NOW!!!"

I was really shocked but still angry, so my reply to her was "NO, I'll be happy when you realise that those spaces are to help kids stay safe. They are NOT Privileged spaces for parents who leave their kids in the car! I Didn't see a CRECHE SIGN, DID YOU!

I know I know, shameful response, I probably went over the top.

TBH It was simply sheer frustration after a stressy hospital apt, two bored grumpy kids in tow and that time of the month today.
Not a great combination on any day.

I do feel I was right to say something, but guilty at the same time for not handling it very well.
Mind you I didn't swear or raise my voice.
Guilty for making an issue out of it, that's not the British way is it? Maybe I should have just gone home and just moaned about the inconsiderate woman that I said nothing to?

Its a small town here so I ll probably bump into the woman again, and then I ll wanna run and hide or feel I have to apologise for approaching her.
But that makes me feel angry too.
Why should I apologise, I did nothing wrong or did I?

Ohhh I feel so confused, and ruddy miserable now. I wish I d kept my mouth shut and just been pi*sed off in my own head.

Soz for rantty ramble, nowt I can do about it now.

IM:(
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